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Moving Day

 Just for the record--yesterday when the eldest son packed up for college that triggered a reshuffling of all the kids' bedrooms. So, in one day I rounded up, washed, dried, folded, and organized every single piece of clothing for all 5 kids. Then, I emptied bedrooms, cleaned them, rearranged furniture, and put back every single piece of clothing. 

Sometimes I feel guilty that I don't get more done. Then I remember that I have 5 kids and what the day to day reality of that entails.

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