Foster Further

 My nephew and his wife, both in their 30s and with two young daughters, just announced on Facebook that they have begun the adoption process. They specifically want a boy. The post came with a family picture of the girls holding a chalkboard stating they were "waiting for our brother". The post, written by the wife, focused on the fact that while they considered foster care and foreign adoption and interviewed many different domestic adoption agencies, they finally chose one agency several states away from where they live specifically because this was the only agency that would allow them to choose the gender of the baby to be adopted.  So, so much to unpack here.  a) You can specify gender when going into foster care. The state wants placements to be successful so they require you to specify a host of factors: age, gender, race, numbers and ages of children, types of disability you can/cannot cope with, etc.  In reality, she rejected foster care for other reasons...