I don't know if it's just plain raising daughters, or more specifically, raising daughters with a history of trauma, that has changed me but I am forever changed. I am more on guard when other adults are around my kids. I am more attuned to their demeanor during and after an encounter. And, I've become the letter writer. Covid has led me to send more letters to businesses in the past few months than I have in my whole life before. Initially, I was sending letters praising stores that enforced health precautions. Now, I'm just a letter writing fool. Everyone likes to get mail, right? Last week Jane had her first ever eye exam. It all went well until the tech needed to put in the eye drops to dilate her eyes. Jane is an incredibly compliant little girl. She lives to please. The tech was exclaiming all over the place about how great Jane was doing for being only 4 yrs old. Then, she tells Jane to tip her head back and WHAM in goes a drop. Jane had absolutely no warning t...
The main characters: Beth and Theo (parents), Three bio sons: Seth (18), Gus (14), and James (4). Two adoptive daughters: Jane (4) and Kate (3). Our foster-to-adopt girls were placed with us Nov, 18 and adopted Feb, 20. All names are pseudonyms to protect our privacy. Beth is a special education teacher. Theo is an IT guy. We become foster parents in Aug, 2018. This blog is about foster care, adoption, Fetal Alcohol Syndrome and Sensory Integration Disorders.