Fourth and Final Day of Preschool

Wow, what a weird time. The kids did their fourth day of preschool phase-in on Thursday. It was a full day, they had lunch there for the first time, and when I picked them up at 3:00 they were exhausted. Tired, grumpy kids.

School was already scheduled not to meet on Fri because the teachers had a training. Then we found out Fri morning that schools would be shut down to slow the spread of the coronavirus. So....no preschool.

Huh. I don't know what to think. I found out Fri that I'll be starting my new job Mon but also working from home, as is Theo, for the next few weeks.

I'm dreading trying to re-phase them in all over again four weeks from now. What a crazy time.

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